When I was a junior in college, a woman called “The Princeton Mom” wrote into our school newspaper telling undergraduate women to “Find a husband on campus before you graduate.”“Forget about having it all, or not having it all, leaning in or leaning out,” she said.
We had more important things to worry about, like the alarming decay rate of our attractiveness.
But what I soon realized was that sometimes the best way to date is to go off script.
So that’s what this column, Undressed, is about: gender, social norms, dating rules — and what happens when we break them.
It’s too bad O-Town was hit by a bus."He was the only "younger guy" I’d ever gone out with, by about six years, and I used to ask my friends obsessively if it was "weird." But they just thought it was strange that all of our conversations could start a potential death rumor about Ray Liotta. Ultimately, it wasn’t that this guy was young; it was that I had absolutely nothing to say to him that wasn’t "There," "Not there," "NOT there, this isn’t anybody’s birthday," or "Slow down, Usain Bolt, who incidentally is A lot of us have found ourselves attracted to somebody younger or older, and have been reluctant to act on it because of some perceived weirdness or taboo.
I know many brilliant, mature people who aren’t old enough to rent a car.
Stuck on trying those tango lessons that your ex refused to consider? Dying to hike the Pacific Northwest or finally start your own consulting firm?
He won't be a naysayer; he'll admire your talent and determination. No offense intended to the mature gentlemen we all know (and love), but younger guys are happy to take a tumble at any time of day or night -- not just for scheduled Saturday Night Sex. From a sexuality standpoint, many say that a younger man and an older woman are a better fit, though this depends on the couple -- of course. You may want to make up for lost time after a less than monumental marital sex life. Reason 4: His Attitude and Energy Are (Happily) Infectious Whenever I've dated younger -- anywhere from five to 10 years -- I found that an upbeat attitude and adventurous nature to encourage precisely the same in me. I ventured more, I accomplished more, and I relished all of it.
This kind of culling is even easier now that dating sites let us whittle our options down to the year.
I contend that as long as nobody is being willfully creepy (I see you, guys in Ferrari hats), this kind of limitation is mega lame.